Dating Fellow Insomnia Thread

You don’t have to be perfect. You don’t have to be stylish. You can’t eat for free. You shouldn’t weigh less than what you want to be “safe” to date. And, you should definitely not wear a $10,000 Saville Row suit to your first date if you can’t afford to wear it on your own. And there are a lot of things that are just not that attractive. Ok, so maybe the way you look isn’t your problem. But your communication skills are. There will be a time in your life when you need to be a persuasive advocate. A charmer. A persuader. A seducer. You are going to be a great person, and you need to be a good ambassador for that on a first date. You are going to have to exude confidence with a smile on your face. You need to be a good listener. You need to be interested. You need to be comfortable in your own skin. And you also need to be able to communicate your preferences. Your comfort, sense of humor, interests, and desires. And this is where you start to separate yourself from the rest of the herd. 1. You need to look good. Of course you want to look good. But you also don’t want to spend a fortune on clothes. We’ve looked at the top trends for spring 2011, and we’ve found you some great clothing bargains at places like and But it doesn’t have to be expensive. You can find great-looking clothing at incredible prices at department stores like Saks Fifth Avenue and Neiman Marcus. You can wear money and wear it well by spending at least $300 on an outfit. 2. You need to be stylish. You need to be dressed well. At least for the first few dates. For the first weekend. Until you break up with someone and start to date again. There’s always the chance that the first date will turn into a second date, or your second date will turn into a third date. You can’t have a crumpled up T-shirt over your newly-deloused cock. You can’t just wear a t-shirt and jeans. Even if you think that all you need to do is put on sweats and call it a day, you need to put together a strategy to make you look good. The non-threatening, non-racy
You can’t control whether or not a date goes well. The key is to have a healthy attitude about it. Dating and Relationships: Survival Guide for Casual and Long-Term Lovers Start with a solid foundation. Knowing where you stand before your date will help you better manage the situation. What kind of relationship do you want? Are you looking for something casual, serious, or both? Set your boundaries before you hit the bar. Do your research. Research how to talk to your date during the date, asking yourself what kind of questions you want to be asking and how you want your date to react, know your own boundaries, and prepare a few lines you can use. When you begin your research, you may find that you don’t want to explore certain subjects with your date and find that there are things you can ask that don’t mean anything in particular to the date other than that you like them. Tell a friend. When you find yourself having an unpleasant date, don’t feel ashamed to tell a friend. This will help you plan out your next date and is the perfect motivation for you to tell your friends what you learned from the previous date. Talk to your date. Let your date do the talking if they would like to. There’s no need to be afraid to admit something about yourself or your past that’s making you uncomfortable. This should always be the first step in a conversation. Pretend you’re talking to your mother. Even if your date is actually being completely adorable and they are actually a complete gentleman, you need to pretend like you’re talking to your mom, because you will be. If you’re really uncomfortable with your date, keep your eyes forward. If you find yourself feeling uncomfortable throughout the date, try to look at your date, maybe smile and wave to keep your mind off the situation. If it’s really bad, look in your date’s eyes and find what is really going through your mind, instead of what you want to think is going through your mind. Keep your date’s mind off of you. This may seem obvious, but a lot of the time, our attention is fixated on other people, and it’s easy to let it happen. This is why it’s important to be direct with your mind when this happens. Just be quiet, look at your date, and smile. This will make your date feel comfortable about themselves and you may be able to pick up the conversation where